The counterintuitive fix for feeling better
Most of us are walking around unhappy because our focus is in the wrong place.
This was me for years.
I’d spend most of the day thinking about me.
I’d overanalyse everything: my work, my relationships, my future.
I thought the key to improving my life was to figure myself out first.
But the more I obsessed over myself, the more miserable I became.
I soon realised that the advice I was getting about ‘focusing on me’ just wasn’t helping.
It was turning me into a sad and self-absorbed prick.
It wasn’t a sudden revelation, just a slow realisation: when I stopped making everything about me, I felt far better.
I started paying more attention to other people, including their struggles, their passions, and how I could support them through my work.
I stopped worrying so much about looking cool and started focusing on being useful.
I switched my attention from self-soothing to making others smile.
The tension I’d been carrying eased. My energy came back.
My willingness to write more returned.
I was now more motivated to create because I wasn’t trapped in the endless loop of self-judgment.
Writing became the easiest way to put this into practice for me.
Every time I wrote to help someone else, sharing an idea, a story, or a genuine lesson, I’d leave the page with a skip in my step.
What if writing and publishing were one of the most powerful things you could do for your mental strength?
That’s one of the main reasons I built Online Writing Alchemy.
It’s a practical method for turning your thoughts into writing that resonates with people, while at the same time boosting your wellbeing.
Knowing how to write well gives you an ‘excuse’ to write more often.
When you do this, you feel better, your audience grows, and you build an asset that will serve you well in the coming years of uncertainty.
Alex